Day of Rembrances

ETA – Today is also the birthday of a woman  who happens to share a name with my grandmother as well. 

Today’s one of those days in my family’s history…  I bet some of you have them too.  My father’s mother was born on this date a long, LONG time ago, and died on this date over 30 years ago.  My parents were both married and physically separated on this date, with 17 years in between.  My grandmother’s last husband also died on this date, a few years after her death.

I don’t have but one photo of my paternal grandmother, and it is under a thick glass, in a weird frame where the photo is mounted in such a fashion that the photo is damaged if you attempt to removed said photo.  So, you don’t get to see her.  I can’t even tell you much about her, because she died when I was very young, but nonetheless, she still made quite an impression on my life.  She was a force to be reckoned with, and I am sure a lot of my need to lead and inability to be a compliant follower comes from her.  (Did I just admit that?!) 

Nannie, from the 1980s

Nannie, from the 1980s

I grew up hearing, “Remember who you are and what you represent.”  I’m proud of my heritage, on both sides, no matter how vastly different my own parents’ backgrounds are.  Both of my grandmothers were truly matriarchs, strong, Christian women, who held their families together through The Great Depression and on into this new century, in the case of my maternal grandmother.  Both women buried their husbands rather early (by my standards) in their lives.  Both were OLD, when compared to my friends’ grands.  Still, I have fond memories of Nannie teaching me to play Go Fish, Crazy Eights, about a dozen forms of solitaire (oh, how I wish she’d been just young enough to get into computers and the THOUSANDS of versions of solitaire at our fingertips now!), and nearly every other card game I know.  Sadly, my father’s mother already was battling colon cancer when I was old enough to play, so I have a hazy memory of rubbing lotion on her back in the hospital, and a similar memory once the early version of Hospice brought her home to live out her last few days in familiar surroundings. 

That’s a nice segue into my aunt’s surgery.  September 4th, they’ll operate to remove her tumor.  She is still insisting she will not undergo chemotherapy though.  (And yes, she’s the daughter of the grandmother who died from colon cancer.  I get checked next year, thank you, but I’ve been on a high fiber diet for years…)

Mugsy, fall 1995

Mugsy, fall 1995

I also want to thank you, all of you, for the continued sympathies and support.  Mugsy and I were nearly constant companions for 12 years and nine months, which is longer than anyone else has put up with me day in and day out.  (The Knight’s now gaining ground, and should eclipse Mugsy’s record next year.  He did indeed gift that incredible four-legged bundle of love to me, but as Mugsy reminded him almost nightly, HE lived with me before the Knight did!)

15 comments on “Day of Rembrances

  1. Nancy says:

    I enjoyed reading your family history. This date does indeed hold significance for you. I only vividly remember my Dad’s Mom. Dad’s father died when I was very little, and I don’t recall if my Mom’s parents died before or after I was born. I have a picture though, I think, in a box somewhere… That is a sweet picture of little Mugsy! I wish the best for your Aunt on 9/4.

  2. CathyT says:

    Loving tribute. I have wonderful memories of my 2 grandmothers and one grandfather. Sadly, my son does not have such a legacy b/c my father died at 51 and his paternal grandparents are not really present although both are still on this earth (in many ways and much too long and boring a story). He has fond memories of my mother (who adores him), but she’s been gone since 2001 and my boy was just 9 when she died. We are truly blessed to have such wonderful memories of those we loved and those who loved us.

  3. Anita says:

    Loved the story about your family. I didn’t know any Great-grandmothers of mine, but both of my Grandmothers (one still living) have been HUGE infulences on me…

    I hope all goes well for your Aunt, will say an extra prayer for her. 🙂

    What a sweet baby photo of Mugsy! He was just an adorable little puppy, no wonder he was so cute all grown up. 🙂

  4. MrPuffy says:

    What a lot of significance this date has. Thanks for sharing a little about your family.

    Love the picture of Mugsy.

  5. Nichole says:

    Wow… so much in just ONE day. SO much history, both good and bad… wonderful and not so.

    I absolutely adore that photo of baby Mugs!

  6. Awww..baby Mugsy was adorable. I share this important date with your gran…and no, I didn’t pass away yet, so that’s not it!

  7. gaylen says:

    I will say it again – you are a indeed a very lucky girl. To have a family history that you know, involved parents and grandparents. And did I read that you even knew your ‘great grands?’

    Love the baby picture of your Prince. Very lucky to have known the love of a dog 🙂 Take care of you. g

  8. AlisonH says:

    So much history packed into one day. Best wishes to your aunt.

  9. Grace says:

    827 is a number you should play with all the significance in your family with that date!!! My maternal grandparents were both gone before I was born, my paternal grandmother died when I was 12 and my paternal grandfather (who my son is named for) died when I was 19 just 6 weeks before my wedding, Mom delighted in torturing me with “if we had any real respect we would postpone the wedding for a year due to mourning” Of course no one (except Tom and I) had even seen Pop-Pop in several years before he died. He was a huge man, and made a very lasing impression on me. My parents died 2 years apart when my kids were 17 15 and 13, they have memories but were not particularly close to them at all. So sad, so much time wasted!!!

    I love your photo of Mugsy!!!

  10. Amanda says:

    What a great post. It is incredible to read about how significant this date is for you…

    What a sweet photo of Mugs.

  11. Paula says:

    What great memories! I miss my Gran constantly she was such a great influence.
    I am glad you had such strong women in your life!

  12. Robin in VA says:

    What a great tribute! I love this post…

    Grandmothers are so wonderful, I miss mine too!

  13. Kathy says:

    Wonderful tribute! I have one grandmother remaining. She lives alone, gardens, cans, attends parties with friends and is very involved with the church. I am very fortunate.

    So wonderful that you had such beautiful women in your life.

  14. StarSpry says:

    This was a lovely post. Thanks for sharing your family history. I’ll be thinking of your aunt next week. I really like the picture of Mugsy!

  15. VeeDogKnitter says:

    I am so sad to learn of Mugsy’s passing…what a wonderful dog, and you were so lucky to have had him for the all-too-short time that you did. I know it hurts..sending virtual hugs.

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