Why yes, I am trying to distract you from the obvious fact that I cannot stay home long enough to photo my items for the WIP contest…
Hem. This afternoon, maybe?
In the meantime, let’s talk about another word. Girls. Most of you (except Pissy, as far as I know) are indeed female, but otherwise, you’re a very diverse group. So I want to talk about the use of the word “girls” to refer to a group of adult women.
How do you feel about it? Is it too glib? Demeaning after a certain age? Do you use it? If so, how and when?
You see, it came up at a cocktail party Monday night. A middle-aged woman – a grandmother – casually addressed a group of us, ranging from mid-20s to early 40s (okay, 41, but those of you who were around for my birthday last year know the specifics!) as girls, and then immediately apologized and the discussion began.
Personally, it’s all in context. As a young female firefighter, younger and much more petite than my male counterparts, I would have growled and snarled had one of them referenced the group of female firefighters as girls, no matter how well I knew that the speaker respected women. However, I do refer to the delightful women in the League with me as girls, quite often. It has nothing to do with the age differences; I’m pretty sure I used it when I was a new member and there were plenty of other members older than I was.
MJ talks about the group of mostly retired but some not friends she has lunch with some Wednesdays as “the girls” too, just to add another perspective.
What say you?