I fell in love with this dress when Vineyard Vines advertised it in my inbox. A local non-profit dear to my heart was having a fundraiser there yesterday, so even though I bought my dress for the JLC Annual Meeting months ago… I went to look. Cry. The manager there is a doll – seriously, she’s the truest definition of petite, and I’ve known her all of her life – or the first attempt into my normal size would have been the end of it. Turns out they had one size larger in the back room. THAT one at least went on, but I couldn’t do the size zip without a struggle and the bottom portion was loose OVER jeans – and not skinny jeans at that.
I tried on several other things. Their women’s blouses/tailored shirts simply do not fit my athletic shoulders or THE GIRLS. Sadly, their men’s small engulfs me, and they don’t make their men’s shirts in XS. The male on staff approached me, and asked if he could be of assistance. (That’s how I ended up trying the men’s small, which to his credit, he assured me would be too big.)
For the first time, a MAN bemoaned women’s sizing. He asked what size pants my husband wears. “36 X 30, without fail.”
He said, “Right?! I mean, some brands/styles might fit better than others, but you – and his mother – know without question that if you get him 36x30s, he will be able to wear them. Why can’t the industry do ANYTHING REMOTELY similar for women?” We discussed my size range for their store. I wear anything from a small to a medium in the less-tailored styles, and from a 4 – 12 in the fitted. (I’m often 2 sizes smaller on the bottom.) He stopped me there. Was I sure? Um… dude… go check the fitting room. Yeah. And your size 12 blouses don’t gap in the front or pull at the shoulders, but the neck swims and the waist is even worse, so I wouldn’t say they FIT.
THIS is why I shop primarily Lilly Pulitzer and Talbots, with some Lands End and J Jill tossed in for good measure. With ALL of those brands, especially if there are more than two fit reviews, I can order online and it will fit, usually without alterations.
I WANTED that dress, but if I’d ordered a 12, I would have had to have the shoulders lifted, and the skirted portion totally reconstructed. A $200 dress shouldn’t need another $100+ in alterations, so even my young friend basically refused to even offer to order in a 12 for me. Yeah, the print comes in a skirt too, but hello?! See above. I can’t wear a pleated, full skirt. The linebacker shoulders require that I accentuate the lack of hips so I don’t look like a hippo. It comes in a pretty scarf too, but I already own a great PANK and blue scarf. It comes in a Shep Shirt too, but I own several navy “job shirts” which are basically the same thing. I also don’t care for the Derby embroidery on the chest.
Just doesn’t make sense, does it?
What are you running from today?